Polyamory Essays - Sexual Fidelity, Human Sexuality, Human Behavior

Marlon Josephs Professor Ehtesham-Zadeh ENGL 1101: Composition Rhetoric 13 October 2018 An Abundance of Lovers Why do we assume women cheat due to loneliness and a desire for affection? Why do we surmise men cheat because of boredom and lust for intimacy? If happy, contented people become unfaithful, what drives us to do so? Most Americans' believe infidelity occurs, because of strained relationships and personal shortcomings. Society, world religions, and cultural institutions have maintained that humanity evolved in families. In reality, Human nature isn't at all monogamous. We may know this intellectually, but on an emotional level, we seem to be hardwired for denial. Our promiscuous past worsens struggles over monogamy, sexual orientation, and family dynamics. Given that people appreciate love, sex, and affection. Why don't people consider consensual non-monogamy? We need to examine the foundation of a polyamorous lifestyle. Discussing this in a meaningful way, requires confronting the erroneous presumptions that relationships consisting of more than one partner involve one man and his harem of mistreated women. An understandable stereotype that's heavily ingrained in our society because these types of dynamics have been encouraged by numerous religious groups and earlier societies, and are reliant upon painting women as the inferior gender. However, today's polyamory movement doesn't believe this notion. In reality, some argue polyamory's rise is attributable to the feminist revolution: as women gained financial and social independence, they were able to choose their own relationships. Today, gender equality is a central value of the polyamorous community, and the makeup of relationships is determined not by sex, but by individual preferences. It is clear: polyamory is not a remedy for low self-esteem, emotional wounds or lovesickness. It does not eliminate jealousy or serves well to maintain relationships without compromising. It is not an escape or recess. It is more like a beginning than an end, a refuge than a party. Polyamory is more like a viewpoint that remained hidden in the forest of normality: a place to remove, for the first time, the significant burden we carry, our limits and desires. If we want it can give us company for the road.